If we love someone, we tend to overlook their flaws. That is why it's called love. You love them even with their mistakes and shortcomings. But what if you're too much to handle and you've gone overboard with your idiosyncrasies?
Generally, people tend to cast their doubts on men about how they treat their wives or girlfriends. Men have been stereotyped as the cause of pain of so many women, disregarding the fact that women also contribute to the factors why men behave the way they do. Some women are really impossible to deal and live with so we should not readily put the blame on men who are just clueless why women behave irrational at times. Now ask yourself, do you have the signs of a horrible wife or girlfriend from hell?
- NAGS TOO MUCH- In some serious cases, women nag too much because they really want to be in control not only of the situation but also of their men. They see men as someone who cannot be trusted, either with chores or truth. A nagger has always something to say to irate her man and create issues that aren't actually there. This is just to let her man feel that he is not capable of doing things and must immediately change for them to have a good relationship. A nagger just doesn't know when to stop and she doesn't care whether her man is already on the verge of exploding.
- MANIPULATIVE- There is a fine line between influencing and being manipulative. Some women tend to act kind and nice in front of their men but will actually devise plans to get what they want. A manipulative woman wants her man to withdraw from his families and friends. So every time he has a boys' night out or family gatherings, she will let him go but at the last minute, she will find some excuses why he can't go anymore, like, she is not feeling well and he needs to stay by her side, or has an emergency, etc. She may say everything is okay but in reality, her head is shouting profanities. She will get her man's trust but create situations that will look like she is a victim of the situations that he created and thus , she needed saving all the time. So her man, who thought he was giving her a hard time, will submit to her demands. A manipulative woman also has a tendency to lie. She does this easily with out any feeling of regret. (Read here The Signs of a Manipulative Wife)
- SHE MAKES HER MAN FEEL INFERIOR-A woman who belittles her man has some serious personal issues. It shouldn't matter whether she fares better than him. Sometimes, the one who does this stunt is the insecure type who needs to insult her man in front of many people. This it to show to the people that she can control him and she has the upper hand in their relationship. It also doesn't matter whether he is doing his best to have a healthy relationship. It won't matter anyway because she always finds fault in everything he does. What's worse, she feels good while doing it. (Read here Signs of Inferiority Complex)
- COMPLAINS ALL THE TIME- Same as nagging, a complainer complains about anything that they don't like. If it doesn't suit her taste, she whines. She always finds mistake in everything: weather, her health, the traffic, the food, the dog next door, the parking lot at the mall etc. She does this constantly and she won't shut up!
- SHE DOESN'T ADMIT HER MISTAKES- An immature woman who cannot take responsibility of her actions always put the blame to someone else. She always let her man takes the blame and insists on it. It is easier for her to blame someone than admit to herself that she was wrong and not good enough. Why? Because blaming him to share the guilt is easier than working out her shortcomings. (Read here When you are blamed for everything by your spouse.)
- RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL- A man who is seriously in love would want his woman to meet his family or friends. But a rude woman will take it as a joke and not even consider how he feels for his family. Rude as she is, she won't greet them properly or have a pleasant conversation with them. Rude wives also offend anyone. She is always like a raging bull ready to fight head on whoever gets in her way. He, on the other hand, always finds himself asking for apologies for her attitude. The worst part is that he is always the easy target of her uncanny, irrational, rude behavior. (Read here How to deal with an impolite spouse.)
- SO DAMN LAZY- A horrible wife is a lazy wife. Household and the kids should be the first in her list of her priorities. It doesn't necessarily mean she herself needs to get down on her knees to do the menial stuff. She at least needs to be the one in charge of managing the household. It is understandable if she has lots of things on her hands but what if she just spends the day doing nothing? Also, depending too much on your man to do everything for you is so old school.
- DRAMA QUEEN- A drama queen is someone who habitually takes everything in a melodramatic way. She always exaggerates and always feels the world revolve around her and that the world owes her something.
If your man paid for a subscription of your endless drama, then go ahead, make a full length drama reality show. See if your man will quietly take your crap every time. ( Read here 15 Signs of a Drama Queen.)
- SHE GOSSIPS AND SPREAD RUMORS- Women are light talkers and they love to tell everything to their friends. It is fine as long as it isn't causing any harm to anyone. But if you're constantly having these conversations with your friends to spread rumors that aren't confirmed as true is a sign that you're a gossip girl. It is not a good trait and it can cause damage to other people. Yes it is not proper for anyone to say a lot of bad things to others just so you can have fun with your friends.
- DOES NOT SUPPORT YOUR DECISIONS-A good wife or girlfriend is someone who may not always understand you but will always support you. A wife who is unsupported of her man on the other hand, will make her man feel that he isn't loved and respected. He may also feel that he is unappreciated and alone if his decisions are always challenged. A bad wife is someone who takes everything personally and brushes off her man's call for support on a whim.
These are just some of the signs that some of us might already have. But if you have more than half of it, then you better need to work on those bad attitude and habits to save your relationship. These things can be eliminated if you and your man will take time to solve your problems and talk everything out. No problem is that big if the two of you support each other. And lastly, if love is bigger than your problems, then it will be easier for you to change those ugly signs and say goodbye to being a horrible wife.
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